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All around the globe “talking is the solution to every problem” is a commonly used phrase. Has anyone ever thought what too much of talking (only in terms of hours or days not content wise can lead to? Two friends talk day in and day out for every single day of the past 3 years and then one of them gets busy. Father and son share an amazing rapport till a certain age and then the son finds new people to talk to. Too much talking creates dependence of one person on another and when a gap is built owing to busy schedule, circumstances etc., is what I call communication gap and is something very difficult to deal with. This is especially more stressful for the person amongst the 2 who is free. There might be situations where the free person finds it difficult to grasp and cope up with the void created. If both the people involved are busy, the gap is hardly ever noticed and then to not talk becomes a habit
Once upon a time
We had lots and lots to talk.
Everything we shared
To hide something was a crime.
Silly jokes and crazy banter
Understood by none other than us
Small laughs and heart laughter
All day long we could chatter.
Something went wrong, it all changed
Though we are both still here
The spark and spunk is lost
Is the situation to be blamed?
Is it possible to set it straight?
Or it’s best to leave it at chance
To be cautious from start, is that the way
No emotional attachments, is that correct?
All said and done, the only way out is to deal with the situation when it comes. None of us can ever gauge when the relationship will blossom or wither. Having experienced this unwanted break and gap many a times myself I have learnt that you have to let the person be. You can’t force one to talk and share things with you. After clarifying your point of view, all you can do is wait for normalcy to return. If it does not leave it that point, accept it that it was meant to be rosy only till that period.
When your friendship is in its prime phase make sure you give it your 100 per cent. Make the base strong. Gaps can cause bitterness but with time you do realize what happens does happen for the best. Also the opposite people do realize their mistake somewhere down the line. A few of them even come back into your lives and you feel like nothing bad ever happened.
Remember the good stuff and move on and always be ready to walk half way through the bridge, with a stronger cover for your feelings the second time round.